It's simple, everyone in the family can use it as a tool.
While discipling - I mean disciplining - use the simple chart as a reference.
"In our family we listen and obey." Or "Our family rules tell us to use kind words in a kind voice"
Kids do well with boundaries and these are clear and understandable. Each rule should be explained and reviewed.
As parents there should be an expectation of compliance towards the family rules.
Those rules apply to mom and dad too. And parents can't let pride get in the way of being reminded of the family rules (respectfully).
It creates team spirit. Everyone knows the deal.
I'm thinking there may be a dear child that will disregard the family rules - in that case there must be a predetermined consequence that is previously understood and is expected. So on that fateful day of family rule disregard, the dear child will indeed experience the expected consequence.
Step one, a reminder of the family rule.
Step two, opportunity to change their attitude and apologize to the family.
Step three, if steps one and two did not bring the dear child to repentance, then comes the natural outcome - the encouragement - each family must decide before hand what that - encouragement -will be. Some families spank, some use time out or time away. Each family will have the predetermined action, or discipline. At step 3, apply the discipline.
At the end of the discipline, review family rule and the Bible verses, expect a sincere apology to the family or God if He was the one offended.
Then move on and don't bring it up again.
In time, even our strongest willed souls will get on board. There will be a unity and peace.
